Why Calm Isn’t the End Goal

Why if you're managing your triggers… you're already in reaction mode.

And for most people, that's the only way they know how to work with their nervous system.

Track the trigger.
Label the emotion.
Regulate the response.

And while that’s a huge part of the process - and one I deeply respect - it’s not the full picture.

Because if your body only starts feeling safe after it’s already gone into defense…
You’re not healing the imprint.
You’re just cleaning up after it.

Awareness is essential. But it’s not transformation.

In my work, we start by tracking the trigger - yes.
We notice the activation.
We meet the sensation.

But we don’t stop at the awareness.

Because the trigger itself is just the surface signal.
What we’re really working with… is the imprint that trained your body to expect danger.

Here’s how I work differently:

🔹 First, we build capacity.
Resourcing sessions to help your body feel safer - now.
So you’re not doing deep work from a dysregulated place.

🔹 Then we go into the subconscious.
Using Memory Recode and somatic protocols, we shift the origin point of the loop.

🔹 Finally, we integrate.
Not with mindset. But with embodied safety that sticks.

Most healing helps you live around the trigger.

This work helps you no longer need it.

If you’ve been stuck in the “aware but still activated” cycle, the 6-month container is where it finally shifts.

Two spaces open each month.
Let’s stop managing the fallout.
Let’s rewire what set it off in the first place.

Explore my 6 Month Container here

Categories: : Life After Narcissistic Abuse, Nervous System & Trauma, Somatic Practices, Subconscious Healing & Memory Recoding