The Body Remembers - Even If You Don’t

When the song hits and you're back in 2002 - sparkles, strappy heels, and subconscious imprints. A story about memory, music, and healing.

It’s 2002.

Britney’s just dropped Toxic, Christina’s gone full Dirrty, and I’m around 26 - in a low-rise skirt that barely hangs on, sparkly halter top, strappy heels, and a body that can move all night.

There’s glitter on my shoulders, a Nokia phone in my bag, and a large vodka lemonade in my hand (no ice - I don’t want it getting watered down).

You’re next to me - maybe not literally, but in that kind of “we’ve just met in the ladies’ toilets and now we’re best friends” way. We’ve both yelled “THIS is my song!” and danced like the night is ours to own.

You feel it too, don’t you?

That one song comes on and suddenly -
💥 You’re back there.
Not thinking it.
Feeling it.
The rush. The confidence. The way your hips moved like they had something to say.

Not because of the outfit.
Not because of the drink.
But because, for that one moment, you weren’t braced.
Your body knew what it meant to feel free.

Fast forward 20 odd years…

You’re not on the dancefloor.
You’re probably juggling ten tabs and a kid's snack demands.
Or trying to “unwind” while your brain reminds you of that thing you forgot to do three days in a row.

But then a different song hits.

Maybe not Britney.
Maybe it’s a voice tone.
A door slam.
A certain look.

And suddenly, you’re not here anymore.

Because just like that one song can time travel you to the club…
Another can time travel your nervous system straight back to the moment it stopped feeling safe.

That’s the thing about memory:

It’s not logical.
It’s somatic.
Your body isn’t working off your calendar.
It’s working off imprint.

The glitter, the lyrics, the sweat of the dancefloor - your system stored it.

But it also stored the other stuff.
The moment the mood changed.
The look that shut you down.
The way you learned to tense, tighten, freeze, shrink.

So now?

You might be 40-something.
You might be a cycle-breaker.
You might know exactly where your trauma came from.

And still - your body flinches when the energy shifts.

Still - your breath stays shallow in conversations where you used to shrink.

Still - you can’t exhale all the way down, even when nothing is technically wrong.

That’s not “overreacting.”

That’s your body time travelling.

And this is the work I do now.

I help women who are fluent in their trauma finally feel what safety is in their bodies, not just in their minds.

We don’t manage symptoms.
We unhook the root.

So you’re not just “coping better.”
You’re actually free.

Not nightclub free (unless you want that too).
But present-free.
Fully-here-and-safe-in-your-skin free.

The kind of freedom your nervous system forgot was possible.

So if you’re still reacting to “then” when it’s “now”…
You’re not broken.

You’re just ready to Unbrace.

💌 Want to start with me?
Join the 1-1 6-month container or begin with the 5MP journey.
You’ve done the work.
You’re close.
Let’s get your body on board.

Categories: : Life After Narcissistic Abuse, Nervous System & Trauma, Subconscious Healing & Memory Recoding